What to Do When You Want to Date Your FWB

Being Friends With Benefits

Being Friends With Benefits

Having a FWB (friend with benefits) can be great. It’s a way to get off and have fun with no strings attached. Nothing could be better, right? The only thing about that is that sometimes people can’t separate sex and love. If that’s true for you, don’t get too upset. Over half of the FWB relationships that ever start end in some sort of romantic attraction. You’re not alone. All you need to do is think about where to go from there.

Call It Off

Be Honest About Your Feelings

Be Honest About Your Feelings

First things first – you need to call off the relationship. The worst thing you could do is have a FWB relationship where you or her feel something for each other. The point of the whole thing is to have sex without affection, so once there’s something there, the relationship is over. It’s not fair to either of you, and one or both of you will inevitably end up hurt. Spare yourself the drama and call it off right away. Don’t lie to her, though. Tell her how you feel, and why you’re ending it. Calling it off suddenly with no reasoning will make her think she did something wrong.

Ask How She Feels

Ask Her How She Feels

Ask Her How She Feels

The next step is to figure out how she feels about you. Who knows, she might have been falling for you the whole time, too. This happens more than you would think, so don’t be shocked if you confess and she confesses right back. Obviously, that’s the good answer. On the other end of the spectrum, she could reject you. Perhaps she really was just in it for the sex, though that’s rare for women. If she rejects you, then you need to accept it. You can try to get her to fall for you, but don’t push it. Especially don’t try to reinstate the FWB status. Since you feel something for her, that part of your relationship is totally over. By all means, keep being friends, but sex is out of the question. If she does like you, though, then feel free to ask her out. After all, she already knows you won’t be using her to get in her pants because you’ve already been there.

Take It Slow

Don't Ruin It

Don’t Ruin It

People who started as FWB tend to have great relationships because they’re already so familiar with each other. It’s the same as dating someone you’ve known for years. Since you two have already slept together, there’s no reason to rush into things. Take it slow with her, and get to know her even better. Start acquainting yourself with her personality and interests. Take her out on a lot of dates. Don’t think that you should treat her the same as you did before. FWB is much different than being in a romantic relationship. She’s your girlfriend now, and not just a sex partner. Obviously you should keep having sex with her, but keep in mind that it’s not the same as how you were before. Also, be aware that she might not want to have sex right off the bat in a relationship. It might seem weird, but a lot of women don’t feel comfortable with that. It’s okay, it just means you have to work back up to that point, this time romantically. In all honesty, it makes it a new challenge for you to overcome, and strengthens the relationship.

Why You Should Always Wait to Buy New Games

Top Video Games Are Sold Fast

Top Video Games Are Sold Fast

Have you ever camped out overnight in line outside of a store just to be one of the first people to buy the latest and greatest video game? The excitement can be pretty real, and there’s always the knowledge that when you take it home and get it out of its shrink wrap, you’ll be among the first people experiencing what the game has to offer. Or you might have pre-ordered the game online and been ready to unlock your digital download and start playing on release night for months. Whatever your reasoning, you should probably be considering that buying games right away at launch isn’t necessarily worth the slight emotional bonus you get from it. There are actually plenty of good reasons to hold off on your game purchase for at least a few months.

Price Cuts Can Happen Quickly

What’s the point in paying full price for a new game when it might drop five or ten dollars in the next few months? What if a digital retailer puts it on sale for 30% or even 50% off as a promotion not long after you’ve purchased the game? Realizing that you could have saved yourself some bucks if you’d only had a little patience can really make you want to kick yourself. Therefore, unless you have some pressing reason to get a game at launch (buying it as a birthday gift, for example), you should always consider just sitting on your hands for a few months and seeing if there are sales. You might even find that once the initial excitement of the release passes, you’re able to wait much longer – and eventually grab that game at a deep discount. It’ll still be just as much fun next year as the day it came out!

Software Patches Can Fix Game-Breaking Bugs

Check The Game Reviews Before Buying

Check The Game Reviews Before Buying

It’s a fact that when it comes to the current slate of releases from the video game industry, many titles are being shipped before they’ve been fully rendered bug-free. The Internet can sometimes blow up within hours of a release with talk of "game-breaking" bugs and glitches that render people’s purchases a waste until the developer issues a patch to fix the game. So rather than rushing to be an early adopter, you should sit back for a couple of weeks at least and see what the buzz online is about regarding the game. It can take days or weeks for a developer to issue a patch, especially if the game suffers from performance problems on consoles or especially on desktop computers. Hanging back and seeing if the game is going to need updates is a smart move.

Downloadable Content Can Add a Lot to a Game

Wait A Little Bit Before Buying New Games

Wait A Little Bit Before Buying New Games

One final reason that you should stick around and wait to buy a game involves the fact that there may be more content coming down the pipeline for the game. For example, the popular series Mass Effect saw quite a lot of story-building DLC added throughout each game’s lifespan, sometimes quite a while after the game’s initial release. If you wait to buy a game that you know will eventually have DLC, you can actually save money by either buying them bundled together or by getting discounts on the added content when they go on sale individually. This way, you’ll be able to experience the entire game at once without having it broken up into parts, and without having to start a game over all the way from the beginning in order to get the full experience with added content. Save yourself the trouble of having to waste money on individual DLCs, and practice patience with your gaming purchases.

An Employee’s Guide to How to Keep Your Personal Life

Find A Balance Between A Personal Life And Work

Find A Balance Between A Personal Life And Work

In the age of an interconnected world that’s full of social networking profiles, it’s becoming harder and harder to keep your personal information protected. If you’re not dealing with online problems, then the increasingly casual workplace culture that dominates profession environments might create uncomfortable situations. You may not think about the information you’re sharing about your personal life until after the fact. Regardless of the context, you have to be more careful than ever today to keep your private life private. Here are a few cautionary tips that can at least keep you safe most of the time.

The Risks of Social Media

Too Much Exposure In Social Media Can Hurt Your Job

Too Much Exposure In Social Media Can Hurt Your Job

Every type of social media connects with each other. If you leave a movie review on one website, it’s probably somehow connected to your Facebook profile. Therefore, it’s easier than ever to find someone if you’re looking. While your boss may not be stalking you on the Internet, if they ever wanted to see what you do on your free time, it’s completely possible. This is why you need to take measures to make sure that what you do online is kept private and away from prying eyes. The golden rule is never to put anything online that you don’t want the entire world to see. However, if you don’t want to completely mute yourself online, there are always different security measures you can take on all of your social networking profiles to make sure that only select people can see. For example, on Facebook, you can set up your default posts so that it only appears on your friends’ timelines. In effect, these types of posts and status updates are locked. While this isn’t a foolproof method of preventing any particularly incendiary content from getting out to the wrong people, it is a decent way of preventing the casual person from seeing what you do all day. It’s generally best practice to stick to posts about your life that aren’t controversial. You just may not want your boss to see them, which is perfectly logical. It’s as simple as setting up your security settings the right way.

Fraternizing Too Much at Work

Fraternizing At Work Can Get You In Troubles

Fraternizing At Work Can Get You In Troubles

The workplace is less formal than it used be several decades ago. This can lull employees into a false sense of security. Always remember, though, that anything you say to a fellow coworker could end up with anyone at all. Even if you trust the person, unless they’re related to you or you knew them outside of work first, don’t ever share any sensitive information. This is especially true of other job topics, such as potentially being offered a position elsewhere. If you and your confidant ever have a falling out, you’ll find yourself in a very awkward position. Appropriate topics of conversation at work are the types of polite conversations you might have at a cocktail party where you’ve never met anyone. Of course, as time goes on, if you work with the same people for years on end, you’re sure to let some details slip. The essential part of keeping your personal life personal, though, is not to let the major things slip. If you’re having a bad day, for example, and you let slip that you’re fed up with the company, your coworker probably won’t hold it against you. Everyone gets annoyed at their job at one point or another. However, if you’re having trouble with your spouse, wait for after dinner drinks with your friends.

How Strict Professionalism Can Prevent Prying

There Is A Right Moment to Fraternize With Your Co-Workers

There Is A Right Moment to Fraternize With Your Co-Workers

No one can fault you for being a professional all the time. Some philosophies promote the idea that you shouldn’t be stiff and rigid in your role as an employee, but that’s not always the case. Being rigid in your position will earn a reputation of not giving out any personal information, which can work in your favor. Not only do you appear to your boss as being trustworthy and in control of your own life, but you’ll also quickly cease to be an object of potential gossip mongering.

Things You Should Know Before Subletting

Renting Your First House Or Apartment

Renting Your First House Or Apartment

If you’re currently renting an apartment or a home and you’re thinking about taking off for a couple of months to go explore your country or the world, you might be considering whether or not you should sublet your apartment. If you’re planning to leave your rented residence vacant for several months but you don’t want to go through the trouble of hiring a house sitter, this is also a good occasion to look into subletting. If you don’t know, subletting is when you act as a landlord yourself and lease the apartment to someone else for a period of time shorter than the actual term of your lease. These tenants will help you to make sure that your rent remains paid while you are out of town and presumably not earning any income. However, before you take the next step and decide that subletting is actually right for you, you should consider several important factors that might affect your decision.

Does Your Lease Allow Subletting?

Sublet To Help Pay Your Rent

Sublet To Help Pay Your Rent

Of course, the first and most important thing you should find out before you even considering finding someone to sublease your apartment is whether or not it is allowable under the terms of your lease. Make sure you carefully read through each page of your lease to understand exactly what your rights and responsibilities are, and whether or not there is a specific clause or section relating to your ability to sublease. Some landlords are very uncomfortable with the idea of their tenants leasing the apartment to someone else, while others will be more permissible about it. Some may require that you run a background check on your potential tenants, or simply written notice that you intend to sublease. If you’re unsure about what exactly your lease says you are allowed to do, be sure to get in touch with your landlord.

There Can Be a Lot of Risk Involved

Keep in mind, what you are planning to do does carry a lot of risk, especially if you choose to sublet to someone who isn’t already a friend of yours. Again, make sure you read your lease carefully, as some landlords will hold you responsible for any damage that is inflicted upon the dwelling while you aren’t occupying it. You might also come home to find things have been stolen, or that the tenant did not properly keep up the apartment or home while you were gone. These are risks you’re going to have to be willing to shoulder if you want to sublet; you’re taking on the responsibility of being a landlord yourself, after all.

Be Sure to Vet Your Candidates Thoroughly

Be Careful Who You Open Your Home To

Be Careful Who You Open Your Home To

Unless you’re subletting to a friend, be sure to check the credentials of everyone who asks to sublease your apartment. This includes running a credit check, in order to be certain that the applicant will be able to pay whatever share of rent and utilities you agree upon. You don’t want to end up in a situation where you leave town only to find out when the first month’s rent comes due that the tenant is unwilling or unable to pay the amount. Then you’ll be on the hook for paying your landlord, and if you don’t have any income with which to do so, you could find yourself in trouble.

How Much Will You Charge in Rent?

Once you’re ready to start subleasing, decide how much to charge. Chances are, you won’t find someone who’s willing to pay the full amount, but somewhere between sixty and eighty percent, plus utilities, is a reasonable amount. Make sure you are up front about the cost with your applicant. If you aren’t getting any applications, consider lowering your prices. Establish a rock bottom price that you aren’t willing to compromise on, though. After all, the whole point of subletting is to be able to afford rent on a place you aren’t living in while you are out of town.

Foods with the Most Antioxidants

Eat High Antioxidant Foods For Healthy Eating

Eat High Antioxidant Foods For Healthy Eating

Undoubtedly you’ve heard about the antioxidant craze. This superfruit is loaded with antioxidants, scientists say. But what’s the point of antioxidants? In the same way that an apple slice turns brown when exposed to the air and fish turns rancid when left out too long, the cells in your body are suffering from oxidation. All cells in nature go through this process, and when cells in your body go through it, sometimes they become what’s known as free radicals – cells without a crucial molecule which can hurt other cells in your body and cause future cells to develop in abnormal patterns, which can be very damaging to the body over time. That’s where antioxidants come in. They’re here to help, but where do you find them? They’re in plenty of foods, but there are some that are higher in antioxidants than others.

Beans

Red beans, kidney beans, and pinto beans are your body’s best friend when it comes to antioxidant-rich sources. Studies have shown that just one-half cup of red beans has over 13,500 antioxidants and kidney beans come in a close second with the same amount giving just over 13,200 antioxidants. Pinto beans give you 11,800 antioxidants in the one-half cup serving size and black beans, while they aren’t as helpful as other types of beans, clock in at just over 4,100 antioxidants per half-cup serving. One-third cup of cooked beans yields hardly any calories (only 80) as well as no cholesterol, little fat, and plenty of the complex carbs you need for energy, so eating them is great for you not just for the antioxidants! It’s easy to make sure your body gets all of the antioxidants it can from beans because beans are so inexpensive and filling. Try them in rice, in a burrito, or as a side to any other dish you make. Just make sure you’re not sacrificing other parts of your health for greasy dishes that just happen to have beans in them!

Berries

Everyone's Favorite Snacks

Everyone’s Favorite Snacks

In addition to being everyone’s favorite snacks, berries are great for you and your body as well. Whether it’s the cranberries of fall or the tiny jeweled blueberries of summer, berries are a great way to pack all the antioxidants you could ever need into your body whenever you can. One study showed that one cup of berries can usually give you all of your recommended antioxidants for a whole day. Blueberries, cranberries, blackberries, raspberries, and strawberries are the easiest berries to find, and it’s great news for you and your body because blueberries have the highest amount of antioxidants of them all! One cup of these little berries has over 13,400 antioxidants, and on top of that offers Vitamin A and Vitamin C. They’re less expensive during the summer, so if you’re feeling like your diet is slacking off a bit in the off months, make sure to pick up some blueberries and fix things up! One cup of cranberries has almost 9,000 antioxidants and a serving of the same size of blackberries offers 7,700 while raspberries and strawberries offer around 6,000 antioxidants.

Apples

An Apple A Day Keeps The Doctor Away

An Apple A Day Keeps The Doctor Away

Remember that old saying? An apple a day keeps the doctor away? It turns out that it isn’t just an old wives tale and might have some weight to it. Apples have been shown to have some of the highest amounts of antioxidants of any other fruit besides berries, so eat up. Red Delicious apples have almost 6,000 antioxidants per apple, followed very closely by the Granny Smith variety with just over 5,300 per fruit. Gala comes in third place with almost 4,000 antioxidants per serving and many of these apple varieties are available almost year-round, meaning that no matter what time of year it is and what part of the world you’re in, you can get your apple a day to keep the doctor away for as long as possible. You might think you can squeeze your antioxidants from apples in by drinking apple juice or eating applesauce, but watch out for the extra sugar that inevitably gets added into those treats. Apples are good as a snack by themselves, but they can also be chopped up and tossed into a salad or mixed into tuna salad for a crispy, crunchy-sweet treat.